My past relationship lasted 6 years. She was my first love. I'm still single for almost 2 years now. Don't know why. I admit that I still have feelings for her but I know to my self that I already moved on. Were still friends but we don't have communication at all. I'm always asking her friends if she already have a new boyfriend and luckily it only lasted for 3 months. Do I need to court her again? Do I need to win her heart back? Please advice.
Based on my experience, first love dies. My husband is not my first love but right now he's only the man that's in my mind and in my heart, no one else.. My fist love is the guy who courted me for 3 three years and he's my high school classmate. I will admit that before I met my husband, this guy is always on mind and I'm always dreaming of him. But when I met my husband and until right now I'm so sure with myself that I dont love this guy anymore and I had never think of him again. First love dies coz if it does not... I should never been so inlove with my husband right now and actually we are now happily together for 8 years and going strong. My advice for you is...if you still really lover her, go!! and win her heart back as soon as possible. For me, you need to court her again to let her feel that you're really sincere with your feelings and intentions for her. Do not waste any time on winning her back, you might regret if you will know one day that she is in a new relationship.
Love is so powerful and emotional and thrilling, you'll never forget it, but you can love come again. You'll never forget your first love, cherish it. Now about your lady friend, don't waste a day, and call her, feel her emotions out, see if she still gives you that spark! Set up a date, simple and short like lunch, dinner or an activity. Before she has the chance to find someone else, WHY NOT SEE IF IT'S STILL LOVE? Good luck, let us know.
First love is innocent love. Both grow together. The best advise i can give you, is one my uncle told me once, many years ago, "in life we never can go back only forward". Of course you never forget her, she was the one who had your heart. If you feel that you made a mistake, you can always talk to her, We have a habit of burning bridges with those we once loved. Ask her to go for coffee/tea, and talk and not about your relationships, but about what you have been doing, your future, friends. You will know that it will never be like it was, you both have passed that and even at my age i find that even though i still have ex.'s as friends, we did share a space and time. And we moved on past that. Once you do restart communication, let things fall in place, don't rush into anything, you could get hurt and anything you once wanted, will end. Take it one step at a time, let her know that you think about her and wonder how she is doing, after your coffee/tea meeting, ask her if its OK to call sometime, and make sure you give her your numbers, and add in case she wants to just talk. Slow steps, If she does love you still and wants something more she will tell you, until then start out as two people that enjoyed each other, and start as friends.
First love’s are like the first big boy bike with training wheels 90% of the time it dosent last. You get on, you ride for a while, but it’s only ment to train you how to ride. It’s just that training. A time where you get your feet wet and start getting the hang of being in a relationship. It’s all passion and usually end with confusion about how you feel for the other person or confusion about how the other person feels about you. I was with my first love for a long time, and when it was over it wasent. We clung to each other and still to this day I have deep real feelings for him.For about 6 years after it was over i knew with a real cirtianty that i would run back to him if he would have me... then last year i had that chance, and i refused i finally saw that what we had wasent nearly as profound or real or deep as what i have with my current love. I am not saying let go and run away. I’m saying this this is normal, You will get over it, and there is more in life for you to discover and experience just waiting for the right time to begin you just have to be patcient and wait for that time to come.
First love does die. I am living proof that it does. I was sooooo in love and with one night, I HATE HIM! This was many years ago, but I still hate him. I wish the best for him and he knows it, but he also knows that I hate him. It is amazing that one night away in someone else's bed, can make you hate someone so badly, but it does. And cheating is the best way to kill first love.
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